The McDade Family

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Hi! Our names are Shannon, Mark and Summer McDade. We are a family of three wanting to expand our family through adoption. We were planning to adopt from Taiwan, but the wait has helped us change countries to Ethiopia. God has a purpose foreverything and we are going to stay faithful and follow Him.

Saturday, July 9, 2011

The Roller Coaster Ride

Yesterday I had a conference call with my social worker and another lady from our agency. It was one of the unhappiest day so far. I was so excited before the call thinking that they would tell me it could happen anytime since we our dossier has been DTE four months now. I was hoping that we would be getting a referral soon. It might take up to 4 more months before we get a referral or could take longer. I think it is going to be on the longer side. I guess because nothing has happened as we thought it was going too. Our age range is from 12m-3.5 years old. So if we want a boy who is 2 it could take up to 8 months before referral. However, everything on the profile sheet has what the needs we can meet of that child. So I guess if you want a child kind of healthy you could be waiting a LONG time. It doesn't matter if we have the money in the bank, bedroom done, clothes in the closet, and bags ready to be packed!!! We are ready for a picture of our little boy; so we thought?? Who knows?? We have been going on this roller coaster ride now for two years!!! I just want the ride to stop and to get on another ride. I am stressed out all the time because we think it is about to happen then it doesn't! Just more waiting!!! So I am not going to get my hopes up anymore. I really was going to adopt again after this adoption was finalized, but after all of this- No way!!! I just don't have what it takes to keep my emotions going up and down. Sometimes I wonder what is wrong with us?? Why can't we be the next family to get a referral? I don't know. I guess I just have to keep waiting......

Please keep praying for us to have the strength to keep sitting on this roller coaster because it is starting to freak me out!!!!!

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  1. Pray9ing.
    I know this isn't what you wanted - but I met a lady that was with a diff agency - everything already in ET - for a while- and she ended up switching to our agency so they could get a child faster. I know they had to update paper work in country to change agencies - but its an option. NO need to reply unless you are interested - but I can have you contact this family too.

    Prayers - I still think you will get a referral sooner - hang in there -
    Love and hugs

  2. I'm so sorry that you are going through this. Every step of the waiting process is very difficult and surely made me a crazy person who could have probably qualified for hospitalization on a couple of ocassions. There are no words other than, "We have a referral for you", that will comfort you right now, but please know that you are very normal for feeling like you are on an emotional roller coaster. The good news- even this crazy, emotional, control-freak, impatient adoptive momma is thinking about doing it again, so there is an end to the madness...eventually.

  3. I am so sorry that you are going through this. I know, the waiting is so hard. But don't give up on adoption. I really have no idea how the Ethiopian programs work but maybe it could be an agency thing? I really don't know how we got Meghan's file in such a short time. But I don't think our agency had very many people in the Taiwan program. Hang in there!

  4. I am sorry. They certainly don't tell you about the waiting when you start the process. Well they do but there is difference between having someone say 12 months and living out those 12 months. Praying for you.